The most stressful part of the family holiday is getting off the farm. Rachel is great at packing, so I let her sort that, my job is to get the car loaded!
Once I drive to the end of the lane and turn right the holiday begins.
I have become very good at letting go of the farm and focusing on the holiday ahead. My leaving words to the meat heroes who are in charge of the farm: are I can’t think of a situation that you need to contact me for so I will see you when I get back!
I didn’t have holidays until I met Rach, the old school farming lifestyle does not really lend itself to holidays, even more so when you live on an island. Back in the day though Sunday was a day of rest, this is also no longer the way, so I recon we deserve time out when we work 24 7!
Rachel has shown me that ‘time off the rock’ is important. She always says that once I am off the island, I am a different person, the person she fell in love with! Luckily she still feels like this as I am rarely off the island for more than 2 weeks a year!
I asked Tinky what was the best part of a family holiday…..she replies: ‘It is the only time we are all together listening to each other and I don’t have to share you with anyone!’
Good old google says:
“Holidays matter. They are our lifeline to sanity, a chance to step away from everyday life and reconnect with the people we love; a time to relax, to be the real us, or indeed to be whoever we want to be. And once the sand has been washed from the toes, holidays can leave us with a suitcase of life-long happy memories.”
That is what I said!
Let’s see google thinks the benefits are:
“Breaking up the norm- A family holiday should be all about treating yourselves to a refreshing break from your normal habits and day-to-day life.”
When you live on a farm there are loads of great things about going on holiday
- Lie in
- Late nights
- Coco Pops for breakfast
- Meals out
- Beds made and room cleaned
- Lots hot water
- Read a book – every holiday I treat myself to a new book
“Making time to play- Time away from the stresses, work commitments and time constraints of day-to-day home life will allow you much more free time on holiday to reconnect and enjoy hanging out with your children.”
I think this is one of the best times about a family holiday, you get to play and be a kid again, go one swings down slides, bounce on beds.
On my most recent holiday, on the way home the alternator went on the car so we were stranded at a friends farm over the weekend. There was a huge silver lining to this extra weekend away. We ended up playing old school games, chess, monopoly, cards…..then the 13 year old came off his x-box and hunted out out all his old board games…. Then the 16 year old came out of her room left the i-phone behind and brought a 1000 piece jigsaw which we all spent 24 hours (solid) trying to finish!
It was the best family time ever!
“Building memories- Research from the Family Holiday Associationhas shown that 49% of Brits have created their happiest memories whilst being on holiday with their family. Furthermore, nearly a quarter (24%) of people surveyed said that they call on these happy memories when times get tough.”
Christmas 2016 family Ranson-Teare took out a second mortgage and went to Lapland!
I was on the fence that the cost was worth it for the memories, Grumpo was also not 100% on board that this week trip had cost him his annual holiday fund.
But it was 100% worth every penny as Christmas 2018 we will be celebrating it without Grumpo, but the memory of his face when Tinky whispered in his ear:
‘Grumpo that is really Father Christmas, you better be good otherwise you will not be getting your Christmas dinner!’
Memories are something that live with us forever.
“Boosting health – Family holidays are healthy! Focusing on our physical health is becoming ever more front of mind for most of us, but research (Holt-Lunsted et al, 2015) has highlighted that our ‘relationship health’ also has a massive impact on our physical health. Family holidays can improve relationships between family members with improved communication, relaxed time together and the joy of shared experiences.”
Some of you maybe away, Harvey (H Boss), is Autistic, this adds a whole new level to the family holiday. Travelling with Harvey can be challenging. He is a man who like his routine.
However for our last family holiday we met with Rachel’s brother and his family and stayed at Dutch centre parcs. Our Dutch family are very understanding about Harvey needs as there are a few family members who work with Autistic children and adults. Together we tackle family situations that we usually avoid in the isle of man. We went to restaurants, cafes, public places, shops, and many more. Together we all coped really well, this was true family time!
I think laughter is one of the best medicines, everyone at some point over the week was truly laughing!
“Strengthening relationships- A family holiday provides the perfect opportunity to strengthen (or indeed rebuild) relationships between loved ones.”
This follows one from the last benefit, every time we return from a trip off the rock we are ready to face the everyday routine!
As soon as we drove of the boat Tinky wanted to know when the next trip was and Harvey wanted to get back on the boat now!
Although technology means we’re more ‘in touch’ than ever before, nothing beats physical time together. Spending close time with family members gives you the chance to develop a much closer understanding of each other through body language, subtle nuances, gestures and facial expressions that just aren’t possible via text or Whatsapp!
All in all, spending time together as a family on holiday simply provides you all with the opportunity to enjoy each other’s company, giving them the reassurance they are loved and creating fabulous memories for you all.
This week’s blog has been very deep, but all I want people to take from it is: JUST DO IT! have a holiday, don’t wait, as you never know what is around the corner!