Thursday 10 October was World Mental Health Day, so I thought I would share my own mental day:
I was listening to Radio 2 in the tractor, they were discussing the signs of a burn out, in particular for men, for the first time since dad died I sat there and cried. Once I had my cry, I felt really strange, calmer, clearer even dare I say it happy.
I sat there for 2 minutes; relieved no one saw me! Then I started to think about what made me happy. When you look for positive things it is easy to see them. I text Rach told her I loved her, and asked her to make sure the VAT was done by 7 as we were having family time on me!
Rachel replied are you OK?! Me: Yes great thanks!!
As I set off to Ballasteen – yep still farming it – the song ‘Old Town Road’ came on, Tinky and I know all the words and moves, so I sang my heart out, by the time I got to the end of the lane I was ready to fence in the rain. I was really looking forward to the school run, but first I had to finish the fence. Today felt positive.
H Boss and I were on the gym run so we picked up dinner (pizza), grabbed Tinky then home to mum for family time. We finished the day in the hot tub (B&Q special for Rach’s Birthday – love it).
I think Rachel thought I was having an affair as she looked at me and wanted to know what did I need to tell her and why was I so happy! When I told her I had been crying then singing we couldn’t stop laughing!!
So Farmers Al’s top tips to combat a blow out: Radio 2, Cry, Sing, Fence, Pizza, Hot Tub, Talk, Laugh, XXX then Sleep!!!
If there is one thing that I have learnt this last 5 years, that is to enjoy the little things in life as together they help with the big things!
Mental health is a huge unspoken topic in the farming community. I didn’t google it this time as I recall last time it was scary the statistics for my industry. We farmers have one of the most important jobs in the world often with the least thanks and little financial reward.
H Boss has the right idea, what do the mindfulness guys call it……living in the now…..H does not care what just happened or what is going to happen he lives for right now!!! The best part of living with him is he has taught us all how to just do things because we feel like it not because we have to.
On that note I am off, enjoy the rest of your weekend. Yepeeee its Monday tomorrow 😊
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